Do you exercise self–care during the holidays? Or do you find yourself in a whirlwind of activity that stresses you out, wears you down and makes you wish it was January 2nd already? In this season when we are all too often pulled on to do so many things for so many people, it can become a constant revolving door of going, doing and ultimately being miserable. We all too often agree to requests not because we really want to but because we feel obligated or want to avoid hurt feelings. It seems everyone wants a piece of our time and attention and they let us know with invites to get-togethers, requests for visits, sincere pleas for help with this need or that worthy cause, etc. Hey, I get it. It’s hard to find time to do what we absolutely must do much less devote any attention to our self-care needs, right?
Listen up, belles! What I’m about to tell you is extremely important for your personal well-being and comes from my own personal experience. It’s not restricted to the holiday season either so this self-care tip will carry you 24/7/365. Get out an index card and pen because you’ll want to take notes here. Are you ready?
There’s no better time than now to start practicing the art of saying NO. That’s right. I said it’s OK to say NO! Not only is it OK, it’s necessary. Part of good self-care is setting clear, solid boundaries for yourself, your family and your business. It’s not only healthy for us mentally but also physically and spiritually. And this means getting comfortable with using the word NO with no guilt attached. You don’t even have to give an explanation or elaborate as to why you are denying the request. You can just say “NO.”…..and leave it at that. Or you can use this simple but effective response. Just simply say, “Oh! I would love to be able to say yes to that request……unfortunately I just can’t!” (Thanks goes to my friend and colleague, Sherry Morris, for introducing me to this response.) Add a sweet “Thank you.” if you like and you’re done. If they press you on it, try to make you feel guilty, or whatever, just stick to your boundaries, wish them well and move on. The key to boundaries is lines that don’t move with pressure.
Ultimately, it is not yours or my responsibility to make sure anyone else doesn’t get offended or they are happy. Both are a choice we all must make for ourselves. That in and of itself is another area of setting boundaries for ourselves and exercising self-care. In the end, it will save you a lot of hassle and headaches. It could even save your life. We all know stress is not a good thing, right? Yes, we do. So get yourself really in tune with your own needs and use your voice to establish where your boundary lines are. You’ll be glad you did.
How do you exercise self-care? Do you keep up those boundaries during the holidays? Let us all know how you do it.
Until next time….Enjoy the Ahh moments, y’all!